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The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: 6 key ideas

by Mark Manson

The core ideas of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, each in under a minute, written in our own words. Want the full depth? Get the book.

1. IDEA 1 OF 6

   Choose what to care about

   You only have so much attention and emotional energy.

   The skill isn't caring about nothing; it's caring about fewer, better things. Decide deliberately which problems deserve you.

2. IDEA 2 OF 6

   Pain is part of the deal

   Every goal comes with its own kind of suffering.

   The real question isn't what you want, but what struggle you're willing to sustain. Pick the pain you can enjoy.

3. IDEA 3 OF 6

   Responsibility is not fault

   Many bad things happen that aren't your fault, but how you respond is always your responsibility.

   Taking ownership of the response is where your power comes back.

4. IDEA 4 OF 6

   Good values versus bad values

   Values like pleasure, popularity and always feeling good depend on things you can't control.

   Values like honesty, curiosity and helping others are within your reach and hold up under pressure.

5. IDEA 5 OF 6

   Be less certain

   Certainty blocks growth.

   Assume you are a little wrong about most things and aim to be less wrong over time. Doubt about yourself is often the doorway to change.

6. IDEA 6 OF 6

   You will die, so prioritise

   Remembering your death strips away petty worries.

   It forces the question of what you would want to have stood for, and that question sorts your priorities fast.