Amir Levine

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1. IDEA 1

   Attachment shapes adult relationships

   Levine and Heller explain that attachment theory, first developed to study babies and parents, also applies to adult romantic relationships. People have different attachment styles that shape how they behave in love.

2. IDEA 2

   Anxious people crave closeness

   People with an anxious attachment style worry about their partner's love and need frequent reassurance. They may become preoccupied with the relationship. The authors suggest that this fear of losing love can shape how a person behaves in a relationship.

3. IDEA 3

   Avoidant people value independence

   People with an avoidant style feel uncomfortable with too much closeness. They may pull away when relationships become intimate. The authors suggest that this need for space can make a partner feel pushed away or unwanted.

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